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Feminine Power, Self Discovery & Sacred Sensuality by Ayesha K. Faines

How To Be a Seductress

The Greatest Seductresses of All Time

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I’ve been curating a list of the greatest seductresses of all time for several months now, and today  I finally published it. To view the gallery, click here or scroll below.

The final list contains 103 irresistible women whose exploits span thousands of years.  From Cleopatra to Amal Clooney, some names will ring a historical bell, while others are more obscure.

I’d argue that my list is more inclusive than any other you’ll find on the web or in a book. While I’ve included most of the classic historical examples, the likes of Marilyn Monroe and Pamela Churchill Harriman, I was careful to introduce several beguiling women, like jazz songstress Nina Simone, to the often limited seduction canon.

Curating any “greatest of all time” (G.O.A.T.) list is difficult, particularly when there is no clear rubric. A seductress, by nature, is sui generis, one-of-a-kind, hence one woman’s brand of love may be entirely different than another’s. Compare the buxom Mae West to the refined Jacqueline Kennedy, or the androgynous Colette to a sensual Penelope Cruz. Night and day.

Romantic success is of course a signature trait for any seductress. It’s not that seductive women don’t experience  heartbreak, I am sure every woman on my list has felt the pang of heartbreak at least once, but their victories far outweigh defeat, and when they win… they win big.

Most of the women on my list married well… several times. Some, like Lily Safra, made a career out of it. But marrying wealth and power alone could not be a sole qualifier. The seductress is far more than a trophy wife.

And while beauty gives the siren a distinct advantage,  you’ll note that most of the women in my hall of fame  do not represent the classic beauty of their day, or any day for that matter. Cleopatra’s nose was hooked. Jackie’s eyes were said to be too far apart, and critics called Wallis Edward’s gender into question.

The magic lied in their ability to elevate themselves, with a bit of ingenuity and style, from ordinary to extraordinary. As Oscar Wilde once said, “Beauty is a form of genius.”

Still, there are several qualities that do unite legendary sirens.  They all possess an intoxicating mix of style, verve and discipline. They are all deeply committed to continual self-improvement, and they have the uncanny ability to transform themselves and their circumstances. Consider  Victoria Beckham’s transformation from “Spice Girl” to sophisticated woman, or the stunning transformation of Heather Sweet into Dita Von Teese.

These women harnessed the power of reinvention and inspired the men in their lives to flourish as well. Jeanne Duval inspired poet Charles Baudelaire’s most reknown volume of poetry. Lou Andreas Salome inspired two of psychologies greatest thinkers: Freud and Nietzsche.

Profound resilience is another defining marker, most having overcome a significant period of hardship before their ascent to glory. Gabrielle Chanel was an orphan. Josephine Baker was starved and abused as a child by the family for which she worked. Diana Ross sang her way out of the Detroit projects.

Every woman demonstrated passion for love and their endeavors. Among the 103, there are writers, singers, famous actresses, comedians, spies, entrepreneurs, fierce advocates and arbiters of style.

No matter what, the seductive woman makes the mold and breaks the mold. She leaves her unique mark, her beauty mark, on the world.

Jacqueline Kennedy, Bianca Jagger and Talitha Getty continue to inspire fashionable women. Millions of people read Arianna’s “Huffington Post” daily. Chanel’s name remains synonymous with chic sophistication and two women, Camilla Parker Bowles and Wallis Edwards, inspired a love so deep they compelled two future British Kings to relinquish the  royal crown.

Explore the list. Find the women who fascinate you and get acquainted with their stories. Among this catalogue of remarkable women,  there is bountiful inspiration.

xo,

Ayesha

The Greatest Seductresses of All Time

 

Seduction is for Women Who Crave Love AND Liberation

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Forget everything you know about the feminine ideal.

Forget the images that confront you daily of pouting, bikini-clad sexpots, Stepford wives and sweet girls who live next door. Forget the fairytales where a hapless female waits for a prince to choose her and change her life. Forget the rules and the dating coaches telling you how to think and how to act.

I am not here to give you any more rules. That is the last thing a woman needs.

I am here to help you reclaim your power, a power that has existed since the dawn of man when humans worshipped at the altar of the goddess. From roughly 30,000-3,000 BCE, women and goddesses were deified, a fitting elevation considering woman’s critical role in early hunter-gather societies where archaeologists suggest women were responsible for gathering and harvesting as much as 80 percent of the stable food supply. These women gave birth and nursed young. They lorded over pottery, weaving and the healing arts. They lead rituals and rites. And endowed with corpulent, life-giving bodies that were mystically synchronized with the appearance of the moon, women was inspired the same wonder and awe as the thunder and cosmic light shows that  bewildered early man. Yes, women were considered to be a force of nature.

From Isis to Lilith, Athena and Ochun, there is a global pantheon of female deities who still exert and inordinate pull on our collective consciousness. Man’s idea of love crystallized around the mythic goddess, and even today, when he encounters a woman who displays her bewitching qualities–vitality, eroticism, wit, succor, the ability to inspire both fear and love– he experiences a sort of primal de ja vu. Men are ultimately seeking a woman they can worship.

“Women all want to be sirens, but don’t know their trade.”- Frederick Fellini

But of course, we’re not supposed to know this. In childhood we internalize “someday my prince will come”. In the meantime we are expected to wait patiently, and behave. We are inundated with slick, airbrushed advertisements that deliberately poke wholes in our ego for the sake of a sale.

We are told that to be powerful is to behave like a man and to be liberated is to have sex like one. We are taught that our advantage in relationships is hard-won and fleeting at best, and that our power only lasts so long as a man has yet to taste our bodies or grow tired of them. We are placed into limiting, oppressive categories. We can be beautiful or smart, a virgin, or whore. It rarely occurs that we can be wonderfully complex, sexual and wise, soft and strong, enigmatic and open, divas, and divine.

We tell women to play the cards they have been dealt, that our romantic success will only go so far as looks and youth will take us. Traditional love advice encourages us to conform and behave, although we know, thanks to Laurel Thatcher Ulrich, that well-behaved women seldom make history. And even if you are not out to make history, why not make a life of your own design?

“The strength of the feminine is that of seduction”- Jean Baudrillard

Western society has done much to malign the seductive woman, the woman who operates with such brazen autonomy, and such electric vitality, that she threatens to turn patriarchy on its head. He portrays her as a whore, as manipulative, as a femme fatale, literally a deadly woman, who will inevitably lead man to his ruin. This is a rouse. This is man’s way of throwing women off… and of ensuring that he maintains his artificial sexual advantage over woman kind.

You know better.

This is a golden age for the seductive woman. We no longer have to seduce for our supper, and thank goodness for that. Today, we ply our techniques to improve our options. We use this set of soft skills and self-awareness to maximize our romantic and vocational success.

We can aspire to be whomever we damn well please.

Our wit is no longer confined to a dinner table, nor is our sexual agency confined to the bed. We can run a business, run for president, run a home, or just run around the world pursuing fun. We can marry whomever we want. We can marry for love. We can marry for money. (We can marry for love of money ?) We can wear what we want to wear and make love to the men of our choosing.

Of course, these freedoms aren’t experienced by women across the world, but curiously enough, in places where women are endowed with the freedom of choice, women are floundering in a sea of soulless hook-ups, hang-ups, break-downs, and break-ups. In our golden era of choice, we find ourselves lacking the power that generations of women before us wielded so masterfully.

This condition is further complicated by the digital age of online dating, over sharing, instant gratification, and over-sex. Women are the losers in this culture. It’s a playing field created and rigged by men.

Must liberation come at the expense of love? Some goddesses among us— still ply this trade masterfully, but most women are absolutely mystified as to how to prevail in love.

Romantic success and worldly success go hand-in-hand. Both take moxie, nerve, and verve. Both require that decide the life we want to live—and then become the woman who lives it.

This site is a celebration of women who did just that, and instinctively elevated love from act to art; women like Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis, who turned down two marriage proposals before settling on the future president, Wallis Duchess of Windsor, the American divorcee for whom King Edward VIII abdicated his throne, and Erykah Badu, the eclectic songstress who hooked hip-hops finest.These are women who shirked convention, gender norms and complacency.

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beyonce-gold-style-upgrade-upgrade-u-Favim.com-123631“Partner, let me upgrade you….” -Beyonce

They, in the words of Beyonce “upgraded” their men. Erykah inspired her emcee lover’s creativity. Jacqui edited John’s speeches. Eva Peron helped Juan rise to power in Argentina. A seductive woman can be the best thing to ever happen to man.

Here’s the truth.

You don’t have to choose between virgin and whore. Both stereotypes were created to oppress women. You are more than a face, a comfortable vessel, or a fleeting period of youth. You are not a car—you don’t lose value the moment someone takes you for a drive, and you were not destined to be traded in for a newer model. This entire belief system was created to deprive women of the very confidence and vitality that makes the earth shake and men tremble– the supra-vitality that men secretly crave.

You can opt out of the hook-up merry-go-round. You don’t have to spend your life decoding texts, nursing bruised egos, or catering to men who haven’t learned how to cater to you. You can be a woman of your own making. And you can love on your own terms.

With lipstick and liberation,
Ayesha

PS: What makes you powerful? Discover how you uniquely captivate with my unique, psychology backed 13 Feminine Seduction Archetypes Questionnaire.

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