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Videos
Aretha Franklin: Case Study in Respect & Feminine Bravado
Aretha Franklin’s life is grand case study in how to command respect, take charge of your destiny, and live with swagger and soul!
Three Lessons in Life, Love & Sacred Femininity From Oshun
Oshun is the Yoruban goddess of the rivers and fresh waters, sensuality, fertility, beauty, art, wealth and love. Brought to the America’s via the Transatlantic slave trade, today, she is revered in Santeria, Candomble, and Afro-Haitian religious tradition as well. She is such a strong force in the collective unconscious that she turns up, sometimes […]
Cardi B. and the Art of the Come-Up
The meteoric rise of current belle du jour, Cardi B., is being cast as a modern day fairytale. But is her astonishing come-up from dancer/Instagram fame to the A-list the work of a fairy godmother, or a woman on a mission? That’s the thing about women, people are always underestimating us, and that almost always […]
Monogamy is for (Broke) Men
When I declared that the original purpose of socially imposed monogamy was to ensure that “Average Joes get to get married too”, the video clip from The Grapevine Show went viral, sparking impassioned debate about the ways we date and mate. In this follow-up video, I offer insight into my comment. Many viewers assumed […]
On Respectability Politics: Why Fierce Women Misbehave
Pop icon Janet Jackson found herself on the scorching end of a media firestorm following news that she was divorcing her billionaire husband, Wissam Al Manna, a mere 5 years after marriage and 3 months after giving birth. The questions and name-calling ensued. Is she a gold digger? Was she in it for the baby all […]
Your Vagina Has the Power to Heal!
When we hear the term ‘vagina power’ or ‘pussy power’, we often think of a woman’s sexual prowess, or even her willingness to use sex as a bargaining chip. Too often, our sexual power is based on the belief that a woman’s chief role in sex is to provide a soft, pleasurable haven for a […]
“Hurt Bae”: When A Man Leaves You Emotionally Bankrupt
[divider] There’s a new viral video, affectionately titled “Hurt Bae” that offers stunning insight into the dynamics of many contemporary broken relationships– the type of emotionally lopsided relationships that most of us will encounter at least once (perhaps repeatedly) in our dating lives. Created by “The Scene”, the short features two ex-lovers facing in their first […]