Women Love Power®

Feminine Power, Self Discovery & Sacred Sensuality by Ayesha K. Faines

Sensuality

Why Abstinence can be Sexy–and Radical

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Remember sex?

We went from hot-girl summer to celibate-girl winter in the blink of an eye. Covid-19 put an abrupt end to barhopping — and bed-hopping — shuttering us indoors to be alone with our thoughts and our most instinctive cravings. But these days, women are less likely to view celibacy as a sentence and more as a form of self-care, especially at a time when protecting your energy and prioritizing mental health are tantamount.

It’s hard to even have a conversation about female celibacy that isn’t connected to religion, relationships, or respectability. Celibacy so often entails taking a vow of chastity for the love of a father, the Father, or a future husband. This is why purity balls, where teenage girls promise their fathers and God to remain chaste until marriage, are still a thing. For so long, sexual abstinence was less about a pause and more about the wait for the one — or anyone. Celibacy was either an act of devotion or the maligned mark of spinsterhood. But it’s time to change the conversation altogether.

Celibacy can be radical, self-indulgent, and, dare I say it, sexy. It can give us the space and time to take command of our sexual desires and prioritize pleasure in our everyday life.Celibacy can be the catalyst that we as women occasionally need to switch our focus from pleasing others to pleasing ourselves.  And in a culture of no-strings-attached love, taking sex off the table can clear the path to deeper, more gratifying relationships.

Rarely do we enter the bedroom solely seeking sex, anyway…

Read the rest of this article from my Love & Sex column at Zora here.

How to Let it ‘Flow’: Lessons In the Art of Surrender

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What would life be like if you stopped resisting, and began allowing? What does it mean to connect with the ‘flow’ and how do we marry instinct and desire? In the latest edition of the Women Love Power video series, we dive deep into the heart of the feminine journey, exploring how we, as women, have the power to endure, manifest, and forge profound connections when we tap into the ‘flow’. We explore an alternative approach that ignites our our ability to captivate, strengthens our resilience and connects us to our desire.

Curious as to how to connect to the ‘flow’ on a daily basis and ignite your feminine energy? Get instant access to the Five Laws of Feminine Power today for a play-by-play in module I of how we cultivate feminine energy– and use it to ignite attraction and sustain vitality.

Powerfully yours,

Ayesha

Three Lessons in Life, Love & Sacred Femininity From Oshun

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Oshun is the Yoruban goddess of the rivers and fresh waters, sensuality, fertility, beauty, art, wealth and love. Brought to the America’s via the Transatlantic slave trade, today, she is revered in Santeria, Candomble, and Afro-Haitian religious tradition as well.

She is such a strong force in the collective unconscious that she turns up, sometimes  unintentionally, in contemporary popular culture. From the universal image of a beautiful woman emerging from water (as in 007) to Pam Grier’s ‘Foxxy Brown’ and Beyonce’s’Lemonade’, the powerful orisha still makes her scintillating presence known. 

Even today, the ancient mythic stories that surround Oshun offer inspiring insight into soft power, transformation and the sacred feminine.  For women, myths offer a significant pathway to understanding feminine power as these ancient deities predate patriarchy and our contemporary concept of feminity. 

In this video, I explore the deeper meaning of several Oshun patakis and offer insight into soft power, radical transformation, and the purpose of pleasure.

 

xo,

Ayesha

Your Vagina Has the Power to Heal!

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When we hear the term ‘vagina power’ or ‘pussy power’, we often think of a woman’s sexual prowess, or even her willingness to use sex as a bargaining chip. Too often, our sexual power is based on the belief that a woman’s chief role in sex is to provide a soft, pleasurable haven for a man– a space for temporary rest and ecstasy.
But what if I told you that your vagina is so much more than a Holiday Inn? What if I told you it was a temple, and a veritable pathway to physical, emotional and spiritual transcendence? What if I told you that women possess a powerful, healing energy that men can ONLY access through them? What if I told you women don’t just receive in sex– we actually give men something they crave on the deepest level.
 
In order to comprehend this, first you’d have to completely redefine sex, and extract it from its modern interpretation.
 
In the ancient world, sex was considered an act of sacred communion, a merging of two cosmic energies, and a means of creation and transcendence. Today, sex as a physical act performed for the sake of reproduction and pleasure.
 
In fact, the very word we use, ‘sex’, is derived from the latin ‘secare’ which literally means to divide– the opposite of communion. The word sexuality enters the english language in 1389, just as western views are totally shifting away from the sacred toward the profane.
 
Our perception is distorted. What we see on television and in pornography is a product of the male imagination. It comes from a hyper-masculine  place where a woman lacks sexual agency, and her vagina is  little more than a receptacle. Most significantly, sex, in its modern iteration, is totally divorced from its spiritual nature, and this rendering blinds women to the real source of their ‘vagina power’.
 
So what is her power? It lies in her mysterious, creative, revitalizing energy that when cultivated has the power to heal, transform, create and ultimately transcend. It is an energy that we don’t even have a word for in our language– though in eastern philosophy it is referenced as Shakti, kundalini, or even yen.
Even renown psychologist Carl Jung wrote in his spiritual autobiography that women have access to a divine energy, that men can only connect to through them!
 
In this video, I share how all women have potential to access this energy and to fundamentally change a man through sex. I talk about how this ‘whip appeal’ is healing to men, but how our modern society not only keeps women in the dark about this power, butreinforces beliefs and practices that actually DEPRIVE us of this power.

Have you experienced your power to heal?

xo,

Ayesha

Part III: How Feminine Energy Translates into Real Power

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(Part III of a four-part video series.)

In Western societies, there’s a word for masculine energy. It’s ‘power’. The traits that we associate with power (assertiveness, emotional objectivity, physical strength etc.) are all aspects of masculine energy. Masculine energy is not exclusive to men, it is a manifestation of left hemispheric brain function– a mode of relating to the world that evolved to accommodate the earliest human hunters. Feminine energy is a manifestation of right hemispheric brain function which evolved to accommodate the equally critical tasks of gathering and nurturing. Traits associated with femininity are often seen as the opposite of power. We are criticized as women for being too emotional, sexually empowered, creative, or even relying on our gut. But in this video, I explain how these feminine traits are not only powerful, but they are the necessary counterpart to power as we know it.

Powerfully yours,

Ayesha

Part I: The Real Meaning of Feminine Energy

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Feminine energy and the feminine principle are often explained in very vague terms— people say things like “your inner goddess” or “tap into your siren”, but what in the world does that mean!? In this video, I explain the concept of feminine energy as it relates to neurodesign and human evolution. I list the essential components of feminine energy that we call feminine values. In part II of this video series, I explain masculine energy and the concept of hyper masculinity. In part III, I unite both concepts to explain how embracing feminine energy makes you more powerful in your personal life, relationships, and within the world.

xo,

Ayesha