Aretha Franklin’s life is grand case study in how to command respect, take charge of your destiny, and live with swagger and soul!
Power
For Most Women, Power Is More Attainable Than (Equal) Love
An honest look at woman’s quest for love, in the age of rising feminine power. Do we trade love for power– or can we get both? Would you rather have love or power? In Greek myth, the goddesses of Mount Olympus were rarely loved. They were lusted. They were tricked. They were possessed… often even […]
Three Lessons in Life, Love & Sacred Femininity From Oshun
Oshun is the Yoruban goddess of the rivers and fresh waters, sensuality, fertility, beauty, art, wealth and love. Brought to the America’s via the Transatlantic slave trade, today, she is revered in Santeria, Candomble, and Afro-Haitian religious tradition as well. She is such a strong force in the collective unconscious that she turns up, sometimes […]
Cardi B. and the Art of the Come-Up
The meteoric rise of current belle du jour, Cardi B., is being cast as a modern day fairytale. But is her astonishing come-up from dancer/Instagram fame to the A-list the work of a fairy godmother, or a woman on a mission? That’s the thing about women, people are always underestimating us, and that almost always […]
Dating One Man at a Time is a Terrible Idea
Why is any single woman in 2017 still dating one man? It is a riddle for the ages. At a time when women have unprecedented autonomy and access to the opposite sex, we still commit to men who are not committed to us– effectively placing ourselves on the losing end of the negotiation that we […]
On Respectability Politics: Why Fierce Women Misbehave
Pop icon Janet Jackson found herself on the scorching end of a media firestorm following news that she was divorcing her billionaire husband, Wissam Al Manna, a mere 5 years after marriage and 3 months after giving birth. The questions and name-calling ensued. Is she a gold digger? Was she in it for the baby all […]
The “Goddess Complex” aka How to Play Games You Can’t Lose
“Do whatever it takes. This is a hustle.” I’ll never forget the woman who christened my TV career with those frank words of wisdom. She was the head of on-air talent at NBC Universal– the woman responsible for turning the likes of Tamron Hall and Brian Williams into household names–and I was a plucky 21 […]
Why Women Must Love Power
They say men want power, and women want love. I want both. And I bet you do too. All too often, we assume that women don’t desire power— that we prefer to be near power, or perhaps make love to power–anything but in actual possession of it. That’s nonsense. You can easily debunk that myth […]