Remember sex? We went from hot-girl summer to celibate-girl winter in the blink of an eye. Covid-19 put an abrupt end to barhopping — and bed-hopping — shuttering us indoors to be alone with our thoughts and our most instinctive cravings. But these days, women are less likely to view celibacy as a sentence and more […]
Love
It’s Time to Take Inventory of Your Boundaries
I’ll never forget the woman who asked me how she could open herself to love again. I was speaking on a panel in Brooklyn, and I can still picture the vacant look in her eyes. She said that after multiple heartbreaks, she felt she’d become invisible. The few men who did approach her all seemed to […]
Jada’s Entanglement Was About the Pursuit of Happiness
When Jada Pinkett Smith confessed to an affair with a 27-year-old musician, August Alsina, during a tell-all episode of her Facebook show, Red Table Talk, she laid bare the reality of her complicated marriage to actor Will Smith. In the candid, at times uncomfortable, 12-minute conversation, Will sat beside her and resolved to “love her through […]
For Most Women, Power Is More Attainable Than (Equal) Love
An honest look at woman’s quest for love, in the age of rising feminine power. Do we trade love for power– or can we get both? Would you rather have love or power? In Greek myth, the goddesses of Mount Olympus were rarely loved. They were lusted. They were tricked. They were possessed… often even […]
Three Lessons in Life, Love & Sacred Femininity From Oshun
Oshun is the Yoruban goddess of the rivers and fresh waters, sensuality, fertility, beauty, art, wealth and love. Brought to the America’s via the Transatlantic slave trade, today, she is revered in Santeria, Candomble, and Afro-Haitian religious tradition as well. She is such a strong force in the collective unconscious that she turns up, sometimes […]
Monogamy is for (Broke) Men
When I declared that the original purpose of socially imposed monogamy was to ensure that “Average Joes get to get married too”, the video clip from The Grapevine Show went viral, sparking impassioned debate about the ways we date and mate. In this follow-up video, I offer insight into my comment. Many viewers assumed […]
Dating One Man at a Time is a Terrible Idea
Why is any single woman in 2017 still dating one man? It is a riddle for the ages. At a time when women have unprecedented autonomy and access to the opposite sex, we still commit to men who are not committed to us– effectively placing ourselves on the losing end of the negotiation that we […]
“Hurt Bae”: When A Man Leaves You Emotionally Bankrupt
[divider] There’s a new viral video, affectionately titled “Hurt Bae” that offers stunning insight into the dynamics of many contemporary broken relationships– the type of emotionally lopsided relationships that most of us will encounter at least once (perhaps repeatedly) in our dating lives. Created by “The Scene”, the short features two ex-lovers facing in their first […]