There’s a new viral video, affectionately titled “Hurt Bae” that offers stunning insight into the dynamics of many contemporary broken relationships– the type of emotionally lopsided relationships that most of us will encounter at least once (perhaps repeatedly) in our dating lives. Created by “The Scene”, the short features two ex-lovers facing in their first intimate exchange following a tense break-up.
Even in the relationship’s after-life, it is evident that the power dynamics are still uncomfortably skewed in his favor. We see a woman who is visibly broken and looking for an emotional reciprocity that simply isn’t there (and maybe never was).
I see a woman who has given way more emotional energy than she’s received. I see a woman who is empty–emotionally overdrawn.
It makes you wonder– how many of us enter new relationships in emotional debt, hoping to find someone willing to make a deposit? And perhaps, the first deposit in our emotional bank account has to be the investment we make in ourselves.
In this video I discuss creating intimacy in a way that doesn’t leave you broken and bereft. Watch the original video here.
The founder of Women Love Power®, Ayesha K. Faines is a writer, media personality, and brave new voice for feminine power and social change. Sought after for her provocative insights on culture, mythology and gender politics, she has been featured on MTV, Essence, Entertainment Tonight, The Michael Baisden Radio Show, AfroPunk, and Time among other media outlets. She’s traveled the world lecturing before a number of universities, and she pens a column for Zora Magazine that explores the intersection of love and power. She is best known as a featured panelist on “The Grapevine”. Ayesha is a graduate of Yale University and a former television journalist.