My name is Ayesha K. Faines and I am here to help women rise, within themselves and the world, by redefining and reimagining what it means to be feminine and powerful.
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My name is Ayesha and I am the founder of Women Love Power. With fresh ideas, and ancient wisdom, I create elevating experiences for world-class women in the areas of soft power, personal mastery and sacred sensuality. My goal is to help women prioritize their desires, and get what they want, by harnessing their unique strengths. My provocative insights on soft power and sexual politics have been the subject of viral videos, national keynotes, college lectures, and featured commentary on national media outlets including Essence Magazine and the nationally syndicated Michael Baisden radio show.
I earned my bachelors degree from Yale University before working as a television news reporter and financial journalist.
For ten years, I studied the inner lives of history’s most dynamic women, paying close attention to the unique, and often subversive, ways women have acquired and wielded power throughout time. I came to recognize the ‘feminine principle’– the powerful, creative force inside all women, as they key to not only feminine power, but a more balanced and harmonious society.
I realized that this principle, when harnessed, could radically change the nature of our relationship with ourselves, and with others, both platonic and erotic. I realized that the suppression of feminine consciousness impacts our world in devastating ways–from toxic relationships to global warming, war, and poverty, these are only some of the startling effects of removing the feminine principle from the fabric of society.
It is my belief that the Universe leans towards both justice and balance, and as such, right now, we are experiencing a massive shift towards feminine consciousness that can be felt at every level of society. I’m here to help women secure their rightful place– at the top.
I share my ideas with a global audiences as a writer, speaker, host of the Inside The Pink podcast, a featured panelist on The Grapevine TV, and as a media commentator. I am most proud of creating The Five Laws of Feminine Power. Ten years in the making, and unmatched in content, the five-part video series is a provocative playbook for the modern siren seeking power in the boardroom, bedroom and beyond.
When I’m not working, I am likely dancing. I perform and compete salsa ‘on 2’ and I’m a member of Reinas del Tumbao, a pro-team based in the greater NYC area.
What Doesn’t Kill You…
Several years ago, I walked away from a three year on-air television contract. I’d landed my dream position right out of college, and I was miserable.Unbeknownst to many, I was losing my life-long battle with crippling anxiety. To make matters worse, I had no game plan. I knew I wanted out of local news, but I had no idea what to do next.
Nothing could have prepared me for the heartache that followed. All my life, I’d played by the rules. I figured that if I did everything expected of me, my reward would be happiness and security, right? But in a flash– I found my career at a stand still. I lost my confidence. I lost my nerve. I lost spark.
I sought solace in the arms of men who lead me deep into emotionally draining liaisons that started high and ended low. This string of relationships made for terrific poetry, but they further eroded my confidence.
I had to get quiet and do the inner work that for so long I’d been avoiding. Archetypal psychology helped me identify my demons and engage my strengths. I created a new vision for myself, one that incorporated my talent, my passion, and my purpose.
The moment I chose to rise above fear, and live with heart, my life changed.
I discovered that my deep dissatisfaction was the result of creating a life based on expectation. I realized that my entire life, I’d been running from my crippling fear of failure and not being ‘enough’. This deep rooted insecurity had lead to tremendous academic and professional achievement— but it was also the reason I was scared to take risks. My fears prevented me from living and loving authentically.
Connecting to my feminine energy allowed me to shift my vibe in every aspect of my life.
Considering my archetypes allowed me to design a life of purpose– on purpose.
Tapping into my power put me in control.
I went from feeling like a victim, a woman at the mercy of everyone else, to a woman with the power to create my own reality.
I’d been playing so small. I’d been patiently waiting my turn– waiting for the perfect position to find me, and the perfect man to anoint me the one. I found the strength to leave a career I didn’t find fulfilling and create one that I loved. I made peace with the past. It is after all, merely a prologue. I started a business. I published my first book. I returned to dance and soon found myself speaking and performing all over the world.
I got in the drivers seat, and everything changed for the better.
I conquered anxiety. My energy changed. My body changed. My lifestyle changed. My mindset changed. My relationship with myself flourished– and consequently so did my relationships with everyone else, including men. I began to attract people and opportunities into my life of which I could only dream. I started using my head and my heart– together. I prioritized my pleasure, and finally, I arrived at a place where I was exquisitely comfortable being me.
Above all, I expected to win. And that made all the difference.
One day it all made sense….
I’ve learned that the Cleopatra’s of the world don’t reach their goals by behaving and waiting patiently for a hero. The spoils of life and love go to women who exercise their unique power in every aspect of their life.
In our society women are taught to fear power– to spurn it even. The greatest texts on power are written by men, for men (as are the unwritten rules of society). We are taught that power is the antithesis of femininity. But power is absolutely necessary if we are to experience emotionally satisfying relationships, and maximize our potential in business, in our communities, our governments and homes.
Women must acquire power if they are to be the change they wish to see. And this empowerment does not equate imitating men. We possess a soft power that invisible, overwhelming, indestructible and uniquely our own.
I hope that my work leaves you inspired and powerful beyond measure. I’d love to connect with you one-on-one. You can always send an email to Ayesha@womenlovepower.com or send your comments using the contact form below. You can follow me on Twitter, Instagram and Youtube and you can join the Women Love Power Facebook and Instagram. To receive updates and personalized notes, sign up for my private list.
With loving power and powerful love,